Comments on: Men and Sex – 7 Things Every Woman Should Know About How Their Boyfriend or Husband Thinks About Sex

By: Straight Dope Dad

Straight Dope Dad — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 23:46:32 +0000

Sounds like you scored! I’m glad you enjoyed the post.

By: Elly

Elly — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 21:54:03 +0000

This was very enjoyable to read and very true! I’m 43 and my guy is 23. I was initially worried about age, my body, his level of interest, him wanting a younger woman, was he just after sex and all the other nonsense. Well no worries here. I have relaxed my boundaries, listened to his words and pay attention to his actions and realized that he is who he is…he is a wonderfully uncomplicated male! If he like porn so what. If he looks at other women so what. If he has female friends so what. He comes home to me and no one else, its my body and mind he wants and appreciates and no one elses, its me he wants to satisfy and no one else. He tells his female friends about me and asks for suggestions about how to please me! He in return gets no judgements, his space and man time with his buds. Why didn’t I catch onto to this when I was younger?!

By: Straight Dope Dad

Straight Dope Dad — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 13:03:36 +0000

Not a problem. Glad you enjoyed my blog.

By: Sarah Tena

Sarah Tena — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 06:00:36 +0000

Thanks, that helps. I’m having an emotional night as I’m sure you could tell. Sorry to dump on you.

By: Straight Dope Dad

Straight Dope Dad — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 05:45:18 +0000

As for domestic violence that’s kind of another situation. If a guy is beating on his partner he has a whole layer of addition problems that interact with basic male sexuality in unfortunate ways. Where as a normal guy can just enjoy an attractive woman’s presence or accept the fact that his female friend is just not interested in him the same way, a guy who’s wired for violence is going to interpret the same situation much differently. There’s all sorts of issues involving control, anger and self esteem that can lead to a dangerous situation. Basically, abusers can’t manage normal social situations like the rest of us.

Now about your guy friend. If a guy doesn’t make an effort to engage with you then he’s just not that interested. I think women are the same way, but since women are more social and accommodating by nature it’s not as obvious when a women’s not interested. For men it’s pretty easy to tell as they don’t put any effort into anything they’re not interested in.

By: Sarah Tena

Sarah Tena — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 03:14:23 +0000

I have a couple questions for you. How do you think all this plays into a domestice violence relationship? I have virtually no interest in sex anymore at all and the thought of it can and often does upset me in numerous ways. And in male/female friendships, does the way a man talks to a women mean anything? For example: I have two male friends I’ve been friends with since high school, only one I talk to at all these days, and he just never seems to have much to say at all, on the phone or in email. It’s like 5 or 10 minutes of “hey, what’s up with you?” and then he has to go. I just don’t feel like he wants to continue the friendship. I feel so needy because I want more from our conversations, or am I just looking in the wrong place? Can you shed any light for me? Thanks, great blog-as always.

By: Next Half Life

Next Half Life — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 05:47:54 +0000

Jodi, try giving him a BJ in the morning while he’s still asleep. If he doesn’t wake up and give you a good fuck, then there’s definitely something terribly wrong (or just incompatible) with him. Good luck.
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By: Straight Dope Dad

Straight Dope Dad — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 04:26:10 +0000

I’d say you probably can’t. If a man is consistently choosing masturbation over real sex there is most likely something going on in his mind that has nothing to do with you or what you are doing. Obviously he can’t continue his behavior and also maintain his status as your boyfriend. They just aren’t compatible. Maybe he needs it explained that way, in no uncertain terms. If this is how he prefers his sex life then he really should find someone that also prefers it that way. It’s not a judgment on his preference, it’s just we all need to find a partner that is sexually compatible. Good luck.

By: Jodi

Jodi — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 02:51:24 +0000

Ok so I just came across your article on a search and it was quite interesting and informative. Now I have a question that totally doesn’t match what you say. I want to have sex with my boyfriend and try massaging, touching and insinuating and offering lots of different things but he would rather please himself in the bath or shower. How can I get him to want sex again?