Comments on: Nope, Not Married

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 23:42:01 +0000

(Um, don’t know why “THIS” is in all caps… sorry ’bout that.”

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 23:41:14 +0000

I happen to be straight, married, and an evangelical Christian and I just wanted to tell you that I agree with a lot of what you said in THIS post. Specifically when you say, “By mixing church and state and adopting the same word to describe both the religious and legal concepts of marriage we’ve created a huge problem.” YEP… couldn’t agree more!
You also describe so much of what I have been struggling with when it comes to figuring out what, exactly, constitutes marriage. Without a sound definition that includes separating the religious and the legal/civic aspects, any defense of “traditional” marriage seems trite, static, stale, and any other similar adjective you can throw at it. I’ve known for a very long time that it is not the black-and-white issue so many make it out to be, and your post has helped me sort out some of why that is.
Thank you for your thoughtful approach to this touchy subject.

By: Married

Married — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 02:49:40 +0000

Crazy is going through life with a head of hair like that….

By: Straight Dope Dad

Straight Dope Dad — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 02:17:24 +0000

I’m only leaving your ridiculous and nonsensical response to demonstrate how warped people can be when they encounter very logical, facts based discussions about the meaning of marriage. You’ve confirmed why it was important to write this article.

I may however chose to delete later because it adds nothing to the conversation and I believe you may be also a bit crazy.

By: Married

Married — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 01:58:23 +0000

Nope, not buying it. Plus, you’re teaching your child spite, lets see how that works out for you. Perhaps you’re just too lazy to get married (you do admit teaching your child how to curse by saying ugly words in front of them, pretty lazy if you ask me), but my point is, taking this stance is useless but for the narcissistic braggartry you seem to enjoy. And furthermore, its unfair of you to speak critically of the people who legitimately “refer to us as being married”, alluding they are “bizarre”?

What’s bizarre is your attitude, your ego, and your blog…

By: Simon Suh

Simon Suh — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 22:20:45 +0000

great blog entry. I’m an atheist and your reasoning is very logical and agreeable. I am thinking of not getting married (in the church or legal sense) too now that I read your article.

By: Straight Dope Dad

Straight Dope Dad — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 17:45:07 +0000

Yes, I know there’s mistakes scattered all over. However, you are not being at all helpful. If they are so troubling then specify where they are so I can fix them.

By: Diii

Diii — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 14:40:16 +0000

I know a book that has no spelling mistakes.its called webster dictionary

By: baby balloons

baby balloons — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 12:23:46 +0000

obviously like your web site but you have to check the spelling on several of your posts. Several of them are rife with spelling issues and I find it very troublesome to tell the truth nevertheless I’ll surely come back again.

By: Straight Dope Dad

Straight Dope Dad — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 19:35:09 +0000

You’re welcome. Glad you enjoyed the article.

By: Jennifer H

Jennifer H — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 19:20:33 +0000

I am a mother of a 2 year old and a proud partner with my lovely man Danny! I love the fact that we are not married and that our families (his more than mine, reliigious of course) really really want us to be married. We have a home, cars and family TOGETHER! Not paid for the government or our families. We love each, are loyal and want our future to be spent together. I don not need a ring or a paper to declare my love and trust in this man. I refuse to live up to societies rules and do what everyone else thinks is right! Thanks for this, very great to read!

By: pk

pk — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 05:43:44 +0000

am tired of this…you married so your spouse and yourself get mixed in property. you cant have sex without getting commited into marriage.
if i want my partner to have property what is so hard about me writing that in the will.
same for her in regard to me.
why do i have to loose a pert of myself to accommodate someone else.
i hope this madness, which looks more of religious/cultural madness stops somewhere soon.
pk

By: Straight Dope Dad

Straight Dope Dad — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 21:55:15 +0000

Thanks. You just made my day!

By: Molly Williams

Molly Williams — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 21:19:43 +0000

Wow. I cannot tell you how much your words resonate with and are so very appreciated by me. I am a lesbian and have been with my partner for almost 2 years now, which equates to about 10 in straight years. We are both in our early 30′s and though we have vowed to stay present in our relationship everyday, everyday we seem to agree that marriage is just not for us. Your arguments as to why you and your partner remain unmarried are brilliant, candid and far more logical than any political or social proclomation I’ve ever heard. Thank you.
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