Comments on: The Myth of Fair and the 50/50 Relationship Split http://www.straightdopedad.com/the-myth-of-fair-and-the-5050-relationship-split/ Fatherhood Advice From a Self Employed Stay at Home Dad. Tricks and Tips for Raising Children. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 04:56:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Straight Dope Dad http://www.straightdopedad.com/the-myth-of-fair-and-the-5050-relationship-split/comment-page-1/#comment-455 Straight Dope Dad Tue, 23 Mar 2010 12:12:48 +0000 http://www.straightdopedad.com/?p=1035#comment-455 Nice solution.I'm clueless about cleaning as well. I just can't tell that something's dirty unless it's REALLY dirty. Same with trash and recycling. It needs to be over flowing before I notice. If I can shove one more container or piece of trash in I will. Same with disorder. I have an extremely high tolerance for chaos. My partner is the direct opposite on all accounts. One method she uses is putting the trash and recycling by the door. If I see it there I know it's time to take it out and I do without giving it a second thought. When it comes to cleaning and chores I need crystal clear directions. Badgering or general pleas for help won't work - just tell me exactly what you need me to do and I'll do it. Nice solution.I’m clueless about cleaning as well. I just can’t tell that something’s dirty unless it’s REALLY dirty. Same with trash and recycling. It needs to be over flowing before I notice. If I can shove one more container or piece of trash in I will. Same with disorder. I have an extremely high tolerance for chaos. My partner is the direct opposite on all accounts. One method she uses is putting the trash and recycling by the door. If I see it there I know it’s time to take it out and I do without giving it a second thought. When it comes to cleaning and chores I need crystal clear directions. Badgering or general pleas for help won’t work – just tell me exactly what you need me to do and I’ll do it.

]]> By: Justin http://www.straightdopedad.com/the-myth-of-fair-and-the-5050-relationship-split/comment-page-1/#comment-454 Justin Tue, 23 Mar 2010 10:21:50 +0000 http://www.straightdopedad.com/?p=1035#comment-454 I think you bring up an excellent point. The responsibilities in my marriage are very unequal. My wife and I both work, but she supported me all through my graduate program. Now that I'm able to pay for things again, I'm trying to do so as much as I can. As far as house chores go, my wife learned early in our relationship that I rarely will think of things to do. I will vacuum and dust, but only if the floor is noticeably dirty. She also learned that I don't mind doing the work if she asks me to do so. If she leaves me a list of chores, she knows that I will do them without complaint. Without really talking about it, we've managed to come to an understanding about housework and taking care of our infant daughter. .-= Justin´s lastest blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AdventuresInFirst-timeParenting/~3/rzF24ze37a8/post-partum-parting.html">Post-Partum Parting</a> =-. I think you bring up an excellent point. The responsibilities in my marriage are very unequal. My wife and I both work, but she supported me all through my graduate program. Now that I’m able to pay for things again, I’m trying to do so as much as I can.

As far as house chores go, my wife learned early in our relationship that I rarely will think of things to do. I will vacuum and dust, but only if the floor is noticeably dirty. She also learned that I don’t mind doing the work if she asks me to do so. If she leaves me a list of chores, she knows that I will do them without complaint. Without really talking about it, we’ve managed to come to an understanding about housework and taking care of our infant daughter.
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