Tomboys, Gender Training, and The Trouble With Stereotypes
I’m doing some gardening when my daughter walks up.
“Am I a tomboy?”
“Well some may consider you a tomboy because you’re strong and athletic and like things like dinosaurs, skulls, and boys underwear and swim trunks. But I don’t like the term tomboy because it implies that a girl should only behave a certain way – which is ridiculous. Because you ARE a girl, anything you do, and anyway you behave, is by definition something that a girl would do. So the tomboy part doesn’t make any sense and only serves to limit you as a human being. Why do you ask?”
“My friend says I’m a tomboy, but she said she was one too, and it’s good to be a tomboy.”
“Well that’s true, there’s nothing wrong about being a tomboy, but it would be better to just be the way you are rather than trying to put a label on it. Does that make sense?”
File Under: Limiting Human Potential Through Gender Expectations